Right Where You Need To Be... You're Already There!
I have spent the majority of my life very frustrated. As I entered my sophomore year of High School, I had a very clear vision of what my life would look like. Each step was clear in my mind in a beautiful linear progression.
My life looks nothing like that.
Even as the years unfolded and I would course correct, I could never seem to get onto that path I had envisioned. It just never seemed to work out quite right. And so even as I accomplished more and more, I let dissatisfaction cloud my view. Then one day I saw a quote from Douglas Adams. It said “I may not have ended up where I intended to go, but I seem to have gone exactly where I needed to be.” It stopped me in my tracks and I took a moment to ponder my own winding course to my current place in life. In that instance, I was suddenly so clear that I was actually exactly and perfectly placed to do the work I was always intended to do. In fact, I think that with a little tweaking of how we think about our current position in life, we can separate ourselves from what we think life "should" look like. We can take into account all that is going on around us and realize that actually, based on our attitudes, decisions, and day to day actions, that maybe it looks exactly like it should, afterall. You are perfectly placed to do the work you need to do, whatever that may be. You are already there! You just can’t see it yet.
Be 100% present where you are. Don’t give in to the temptation to divide yourself between real life human interaction and the fake avatars of the interwebs. Reclaim Conversation and embrace the sticky awkwardness that is human interaction. YOU MUST BE PRESENT. Re-enter the land where responses are unedited, discussions are meaningful, and eye contact is required.
Much of life will be unclear. You will wonder “Why is this happening? What should I do next? Where should I go from here?” HAVE PATIENCE. Remind yourself that each experience is providing you with exactly the tools you need for the next and the next.
There is no elevator to success; You absolutely MUST take the stairs. Success takes work, HARD WORK. And True Success, the kind that satisfies you to your very core, will require that you try and fail and try again. In the January 1921 issue of American Magazine, in regards to his experiments on the light bulb, Thomas Edison is quoted as saying “After we had conducted thousands of experiments without solving the problem, my associate expresses discouragement and disgust. I assured him cheerily that we had indeed learned something. For we had learned thousands of ways NOT to solve the problem.” BE PERSISTENT! Let the failures pile up and guide you to the next course of action.
Do you know the difference between a lump of coal and a diamond? Pressure! Don’t be afraid of a little tension because nothing easy is worth doing. Complacency is the end of growth. Apply Pressure yo yourself by constantly challenging what you are doing and asking how you can do it better.
Philanthropy, by definition, is the love of humanity in the sense of caring, nourishing, developing, and enhancing what it means to be human. You must invest in humanity. Improving the lives of others improves the lives of all and doing so should rest at the core of what you do. A life that looks like a selfie stick ultimately ends with nothing but yourself in the picture.
E.B. White, the author of the well-known children’s story Charlotte’s Web, once said “I wake up each morning determined both to change the world and to have one heck of a good time. This often makes planning my day difficult.”
I hope that each of you find it as difficult to plan your day as I do.
Happiness isn't a destination, afterall; it is a way of life!