Why You're Just "Fine" and Avoid Failure...

Mark and I moved into our home 5 years ago now. We bought it in foreclosure in the very neighborhood I grew up in here in Lakeland, and with a little sweat equity it's really become a great house. We've put so much work into our house, but somehow in the five years we've lived here, we have never managed to get a garage door remote.... Until two weeks ago.

My life has, quite frankly, been revolutionized by this tiny little contraption that slides onto the sun visor of my car. Unloading the baby and groceries and whatever hand-me-down toy someone gave us this week and my gym bag and the sweat towels and whatever trash/coffee mugs/cups etc was often so overwhelming that I would just leave the crap in my car in hopes that it would spontaneously combust or something. This one tiny tweak to my life has started a revolution of car cleanliness that is unprecedented in the history of Becca. As an added bonus, we have FINALLY cleaned out the garage knowing that our neighbors (mostly my parents) would judge us at the unsightliness hiding behind that door. AND should I arrive home during a torrential downpour, I can actually get everything inside with my hair still intact! Five loooooong years of messy car, messy garage, ruined hair..... What took us so long?

I've been pondering this myself over the last two weeks (you know, since I have extra time thanks to the ease of bringing in groceries and stuff) and I've come up with a few interesting reasons that I think shine a little light on why so many of us fail to do something that improves our life so incredibly much - (ahem).... Diet changes.... Actually DOING exercise.... Going to bed at a reasonable time....

  1. We fear the initial investment. Whether it is time or money or both, the idea of coming up with either of those, especially in an unknown amount, is enough to keep us from even exploring the possibility. The thought of going to Home Depot to find an entire aisle of garage door remotes of differing sizes, shapes, prices, abilities was just too much to fathom. And then I was sure that it was going to cost $100 dollars or something. Turns out I was wrong (yes, I'm admitting it). The same is true when you are trying to make a change in your health- Who can afford a gym?!? Surely it costs one MILLION dollars and that would require giving up your daily Starbucks habit and how could a day possibly start without a venti mocha caramel frappucino with soy milk, whipped cream and extra caramel sauce?!?!?- Do yourself a favor and if there is a health change you've been thinking about, knowing you need, invest a little time and money into it this month. You might be surprised to find it's not so expensive and the benefit far outweighs the cost!
  2. We are afraid of failure. I had this recurring vision of going to get my garage door remote, getting home and opening the package and realizing that I was too stupid to program it or that I bought the wrong one that wouldn't work or something like that. I don't know about you but I feel like I fail enough, thankyouverymuch, and the last thing I need is another failed attempt in my life. But really, failure is learning and learning is growing and growing is (painfully) awesome. In the health world, we have somehow created this idea that everything is either good or bad. "I did bad today. I had a piece of chocolate." "I did good today, I nearly starved to death." A meal is either good or bad and a workout that doesn't leave you completely destroyed has now become bad or worthless. But I don't believe everything has to be so black and white. At Haka, we like to say that "Failure is encouraged." When lifting a weight, or attempting it, the point at which you fail is the point at which the actual gains are being made. How awesome is that? You can fail and be better for it!!
  3. We are comfortable with our own "fine-ness". I mean it was fiiiiine to walk all the way around the house to get the groceries and I was capable of doing it. The stuff in the garage was fine, too. It was hidden behind the big door. But deep down, I just can't be ok with fine. And I don't think you can either. There is a satisfaction that comes from personally taking something that is just "fine" and making it really great. This morning in the gym one of the guys remarked, "I know when my wife says something is fine, it's actually not fine at all!" If your workouts or your food or your relationships are just fine, there's room for improvement. Fine really isn't fine at all. And you hold the key to making just "fine" into incredibly awesome!

$30, a little trip to Home Depot, and about 6 minutes of my time to program it... That's all it took.....except the 5 years I waited to take action.

GeneralRebecca Maglischo